Practical tips to find your purpose...

Right now, I'm writing you things while I'm in the air flying to the UK to hold a psilocybin ceremony. Part of my purpose (more about that later in the message)

Many people get stuck when it comes to finding their purpose.

I was one of them, wasting years asking the wrong questions.

Finding your purpose will come down to asking a specific set of questions and clarity about what you already have.

Word of a warning: there will be some tough love. Its purpose is to shake and wake you up.

Also when I had challenges with finding my purpose, none gave me this kind of information for free.

So please take it seriously and use it.

I share the same information only with my paying clients.

It's your NY gift from me to you :)

Here we go...

So what is the purpose of life?

In short, and in its essence "the purpose of life is to be lived"

That's literally it.

The real question is to find what fulfils you.

I found that the biggest misconception, or wrong question, is that you're trying to figure out the purpose for your whole life.

That you know already "The purpose of life is to be lived"

It's too hard of a question, almost impossible to answer.

Instead focus on shorter term answer to a question:

"What is my vision for my life right now?"

For example, Look at Arnold Schwarzenegger, the man had a vision to be the best body builder, then when he reached that, he had a vision to be an actor, he did that, then to be a politician, he did that.

He had vision for stages of his life.

The truth is we have no idea what's going to happen tomorrow, let alone in 40years.

So focus on your vision, what is your vision for your life right now.

Then ask yourself, having that same vision in mind, these questions:

What is this important to me?

What will having that vision achieved give me or enable me to do?

Why do I bother?

If I had all the money and time in the world would I still do that thing?

If you answered 'yes' then ask yourself "What would I specifically see happen this year which would bring me closer to my vision? Or even achieve it?"

The answer to that question is your purpose.

Your purpose is to fulfil your vision.

Sometimes the vision is so big that it seems unattainable, so bring it down to manageable steps.

Just like Arnold said when he was lifting weights "I knew that with every rep I'm one step closer to fulfilling my vision!"

Small steps first before big steps.

"But Damir you don't know my situation, I'm anxious, depressed, I've been through things, bad things happen to me..."

I've heard all the possible excuses and suffered from guilt, shame, anxiety, mild depression, low self-worth and what not.

I had and heard ALL possible excuses.

Like this one:

"You don't know what trauma is Damir"

Hmm let me see, I was born in communist regime, then war started when I was 14 years old, torture, dead people, rape, bombing, snipers, images of slaughtered people old, women, children, friends caught, tortured and executed, War criminals, dirty politicians, you name it.

That was just another day in our lives.

Literally stuff you DON’T see in the movies because it’s worse that you can possibly imagine

So, yeah, not sure what you call that.

With that said, just as Dr Gabor Mate said, "trauma is not what happened to you, that was traumatic event, trauma is what you do to yourself by relieving it"

In other words, you create yourself into a victim.

You see being a victim is very, very cosy safe place (I know this too, I played one for decades)

When you're in victim mode, 'poor me' kind stuff, you get attention(which is mistaken for love) you get feelings for belonging, understanding, etc.

It keeps you in a comfort zone because you have the excuse of pointing a finger in and blaming someone for the situation you are in.

I did the same - I was blaming war for me not being successful.

Then my first mentor explained to me that war has nothing to do with it.

I was not taking responsibility for my actions, that's why I was in the mess I was.

My other mentor said to me, marketing mentor, "Damir you can be at making money, or at making excuses"

Same goes for you - can find and live your purpose or be making excuses.

The truth of the matter is that you know what your purpose is, you know what excites you, you know what you want to do - you just might not believe it. or it's not clear enough(use the questions above to clear it out)

What I found is exactly this - that for most of you it's easier to play a victim, suck emotional energy from other people, make them feel sorry for you , make them worry about you while you sit comfortably in your chair not wanting to make a move forward.

Why?

Because you are more worried about what people will think of you, that you are making a mistake in your life.

You are happier destroying people's life's around you(I know you don't wanna do this but this IS what you are doing when you play a victim) then to step out of your comfort zone and do something which will make you happy.

So what if you make mistakes?

So what if you are not perfectly clear what your purpose is?

A lot of people look for "spiritual enlightenment' but guess what?

It ain't coming to you if you are in a state of anxiety, depression, shame or guilt.

You know why?

Because you're ungrateful.

So many people live in an excuse world, going out of their way to prove to themselves how hard their life is.

But you know what that is?

It's being ungrateful!

Spiritual awakening and the message of the divine come from the state of being grateful.

Focusing on what you have, not what you don't have.

I find the smallest thing everyday to be grateful about like water I drink, pen on my table, roof over my head, clothes I have in my messy garden - at least I have one, anything and everything I see as a blessing.

I cannot tell you how grateful I am to be alive, healthy, to have friends, to have family, to have shops to go to buy food, and not to have to walk miles to get water.

And I know you live in the same environment.

There are billions, billions of people who don't even have a fraction of what you have - be grateful.

Be grateful you are reading this; it means you have a phone, or computer to read it from.

You have the internet.

You have data.

Be grateful you are healthy, if you are not grateful you are alive.

Be grateful you are not out on the street freezing to death.

Get grateful you have food in the fridge, if there is no food be grateful you have the fridge.

Be grateful for every smallest thing in your life.

Be grateful you can see and read this.

Be grateful you have been given this beautiful life to live.

Live it.

If you can't find your purpose, then your purpose is to be grateful for the life you've been given.

Just about 80-90% want to help other people.

This is a beautiful purpose to have.

There are millions and one way to do it.

But first help yourself, make sure people don't have to worry about you(that’s helping people you love).

Then go and help others.

I heard something brilliant the other day ‘Maybe the situation you are in in not for you to fix, it’s there to fix you’

I found that most successful people you see around had some major challenge in their life, overcame it and now help others to do the same.

So whatever situation you are in, know this, it’s there for a reason.

Go through it, help others = your purpose.

I know you may have challenges; guess what? We all do.

I'm literally giving you a solution for FREE to find your purpose and be happy.

Be grateful for that.

Now, get off your ass and do the work.

Magic doesn't happen.

Magic gets created.

By YOU and you only.

Stop living in a fairy-tale and magic pill solution mentality.

Get off your ass if you haven't by now.

Get off your ass everyday, love it, live it, grab it by its balls and be grateful for it.

Only you have the control of your life.

Only you have the control of your thoughts.

When you are ungrateful, focusing on the negative, whatever didn't work, what you don't have and other crap - you live in the state of LACK.

This is literally the message you are sending out to the Universe - lack!

'I'm in a state of lack.' - That's what you are sayiong to yoruself.

These are th thoughs you have chosen

And the universe responds- it sends you more of what you focus on, LACK!

Are you happy with that?

You can turn things around, literally right now, get a paper and write the smallest thing you are grateful for all the things you take for granted.

Yes, when you focus on should, could, would, don't have, etc it means that you are thing EVRYTHING you have, and there is lot of it, for granted.

Your life will start to change NOW.

And the message you are sending to the universe will be ABUNDANCE.

This is the Law of attraction.

This IS how it works.

I didn't invent it, I live by it.

In abundance of pretty much EVERYTHING.

If you think about whatever thing which brings you joy - then stop thinking, go and do something about it.

That's how you find your purpose.

If you told me 10years ago I'll be on plane, writing messages like this, going to UK to hold psilocybin ceremonies I'd say "no way"

I did not know where my journey would take me.

I also don't know where I'll be in the next 10 years.

Chek this out:

This summer I went to borrow a ladder to fix my tent.

On the way I escaped a potentially deadly car accident.

I slowed down for the whole summer.

I stopped rushing.

I started to enjoy life more.

I had no idea my life would take me there.

I had no idea I would take on the "slow down and smell the roses" mentality.

My purpose in life is to help people to empower themselves.

Help people be in control of their life.

Help people live to their fullest potential

Help people live authentically.

Call it anyway you want it, it all means the same thing.

I still have the same purpose. Almost losing my life made an impact on how I do this.

I had no idea this would happen.

So you too have no idea what will happen in the next 5min so stop worrying about it and try to play God thinking that you know how you gonna feel if you do something you haven't done yet.

Go and do it then make a decision.

You are no God and have zero knowledge of what's gonna happen before you actually do something.

Just like the rest of us.

Stop trying to control the uncontrollable and control what you can, this moment, right now.

Right now you can make decisions and actually DO something about your life.

Go and DO it - your future will thank you.

Because every little step you take brings you closer to fulfilling your vision and living on your purpose.

Thanks for reading, hope you got a good shake and wake up call.

The aim here is to get you going because I know you have it in you :)

Cheers,

Damir